some thirty-one years into this life, i’ve come to learn there are a handful of things they never tell you – they being all those people, usually older, who surrounded us, guided us, educated us in our earlier days. basically, society in general.
i feel like i have a fairly strong intuition, and i believe because i’ve taken the time to acknowledge it, i’ve been able to discover things that wouldn’t have otherwise been shown to me.
and so what follows is a collection of truths that i find foundational to my growth, things they never tell you, but hopefully we learn along the way, somehow…
success does not equate with square-footage.
living minimally is possible. in fact, it is necessary for deeper reflection, self-discovery.
foods should be eaten seasonally, hence why they thrive during specific times of the year.
you can (and should) drink rose all year long. bubbly too.
weddings do not equate marriage, do not equate happiness. save your money.
if you don’t want to wear a bra, don’t. no one really cares. and if they do, that’s their problem.
yes, build a savings, but don’t do it solely for retirement. what if you don’t live till then?
…and on that note, live smaller to work less and live more. then you won’t feel like you have to retire.
quality over quantity. that goes for food, items, relationships.
plants are therapy.
having kids does not equate with forming a legacy. we can form a legacy through our daily actions and interactions.
meditation looks different for everyone.
candlelight at dinner is the easiest way to ritualize a meal, even if said meal is eaten in bed on your lap.
incorporate a “tea time,” however that looks to you, in your day NO MATTER WHAT. it is essential for self-care and resetting and overall wellbeing. it is a ritual worth investing in.
i realize this list is not the end-all, be-all of learned truths, but i am grateful for the opportunities to have made decisions and changes earlier on in life in order to continue living with a sense of peace, a sense of purpose.
as time goes by, i am certain this list will grow, new discoveries will be made, and my sense of self will grow deeper. meanwhile, i will continue living this big, beautiful life with all of its intricacies, not expecting that someone will magically appear to lead the way. they will never give you the prescription to a life celebrated.